***Possible Spoilers Ahead!***
*** Due to the fact that this is a non-fiction book, spoilers aren’t as huge of a factor. However, if you wish to read this with no previous insight, I recommend that you skip this review 🙂 **
I am sad to say that I did not finish this book. I wasn’t too terribly impressed, not that it isn’t a good book! This review will be more just my personal opinions, but please keep in mind that I didn’t finish the entire book and you should make your own informed decision on if this book is for you or not.
Book Title: You are a Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
Author: Jen Sincero
Main Theme: Self – Help
Thesis: Jen Sincero, a #1 New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and success coach help countless people in their personal and professional lives via her newsletters, books, seminars, and public appearances. “You are a Badass” has helped millions learn to love themselves, flaws and all.
What Drew Me In: Since reading Rachel Hollis’ book, “Girl, Wash Your Face”, I have slowly become obsessed with self-help books. Since this is a totally new field for me, I took to Google to find out more popular self-help books that I should read. I came across this one and read some pretty great reviews for it. I was pretty excited, so I took to the ILL system in my library and found it locally.
Summary: Jen Sincero starts her book off by the re-telling of her “ah-ha!” moment of when she decided to do more in her life and how she could improve herself. Through-out the book, she reveals a great number of personal details in her life, the good, the bad, and the plain hilarious moments. Like her band, Crouch? GOOD LORD. That was a great chapter. Each chapter highlights a point in her life that taught her a valuable lesson, and she describes to you what lesson she learned and how she implies it to her every-day life now. Towards the end of each chapter, she gives a list of tips that have helped her accomplish goals or climb over the toughest uphill battles, always ending with “Love Yourself”.
My Thoughts: I was really excited about this book, still on my “self-help/self-love” kick. Jen is a hilarious lady that personally, I would love to hang out with for a night. She seems like a perfect happy-go-lucky kind of gal that every woman (or man!) should have in their life. While Jen makes some great points throughout her book, I found myself lacking the desire to continue reading. Every time I would open my book, I found myself bored after a couple of chapters and would switch to another book. While her stories are amusing and many lessons can be learned from them, I wasn’t a fan of her writing style. She often made up her own terms/words to describe her situation. Found in Chapter 2 of her book, page 29, she says:
“Wherever you happen to stand on the God issue, let me just say that this whole improving your life thing is going to be a lot easier if you have an open mind about it. Call it whatever you want – God, Goddess, The Big Guy, The Universe, Source Energy, Higher Power, The Grand Poobah, gut, intuition, Spirit, The Force, The Zone, The Lord, The Vortex, The Mother Load – it doesn’t matter. Personally, I find the God word to be a tad too loaded, I prefer Source Energy, The Universe, The Vortex, Spirit, The Mother Lode (all of which I will use interchangeably throughout this book FYI). Whatever You choose to call it isn’t important, what is important is that you start to develop an awareness of, and a relationship with, the Source Energy that’s surrounding you and within you (which is all the same energy), and which will be your best pal ever if you give it a chance.”
If you have your own terms for things, that is totally fine in my book, but for me, it made it hard to read. Random words like that which are used interchangeably confused me through-out the book. Another example is found in Chapter 4, page 41:
“In the self-help/spiritual community, “Ego” is used to refer to the shadow self, or the false self, or the self that’s acting like a weenie. It’s the part of us that driving the bus when we do things like sabotage our happiness by cheating on our husbands or wives because deep down we don’t feel worthy of being loved, or that refuses to follow our hearts and pursue an acting career because we’re terrified to be seen for who we really are, or that goes on and on and on and on about how great we are and shows off our muscles because we’re insecure and nee lots of outside validation that we’re good enough.
In other words, there is more than one way to go on an ego trip. From here on out, I’m going to refer to the Ego as the Big Snooze. Or BS for short. I think it’ll be less confusing. Plus, I think it’s more appropriate since the leading cause of sucking (staying broke, dating morons, uncontrollably crying in public because we hate our lives) is that we haven’t yet woken up to how truly powerful we are or to how massively abundant our Universe is.”
Sorry girl, as funny as it is to refer to something as “BS”, the term Ego made much more sense for me. It’s really confusing to randomly see the word “Big Snooze” in the book.
I am not saying in any way that this is a bad or wrong way to write a book. This book has obviously helped millions or at least inspired millions of people to pick it up off their library shelf or buy it off Amazon. To each their own.
And for some strange reason, I just couldn’t pull myself into the book. Like I said before, after a chapter or two, I would find my mind wandering away, and I would feel compelled to force myself to keep reading. Not that it was boring, she has some great stories to tie into her lessons, but something didn’t strike a chord in me to keep reading. This rarely happens while I read, so I’m not sure what the problem is.
HOWEVER… I believe that Sincero has some amazing words of advice and I love that she is also a person who went through the same heartache and self-doubt that so many of us go through every day. I’m not gonna pay for some advice from someone who has had a damn near perfect life. Give me all that realness!!
Would I recommend this book?: As stated before, I want my fellow readers to form their own opinion on this book, as I do believe it can be beneficial to anyone who is wanting to learn on how to love themselves more. Sincero has great advice, and you will find yourself laughing along with her as she has stumbled through life. While this book may not have been my cup of tea, if you are looking to improve your life, find yourself a copy and give it a try.
If you have a recommendation for a self-help book, send them my way! My next self-help book will be “A Tribe Called Bliss”, I’m excited to give it a try!
Until next time, The Library Lady ♡